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Originally Posted by goldiemom
I have a couple good friends I never see but email alot. But most people are disappointing. Its because of our cultural values. Honesty and manners are not in style. Maybe the people in groups are too clickish for you. Maybe finding friends one on one would be better somehow. I met my friends on forums and we started emailing and calling. They dont live near me though. I like rural people more too. I like nature. I often just chat with strangers like at the pier fishing. Im not good at it either. I have lived in my town for 12 years and dont have a friend to even have coffee with. Im disabled and people think im weird because i dont interact well I dont go out much.
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You are right that honesty and manners are not in style. I am learning to quickly pull back from rude behavior. You’re also right that I do better with individual friendships than group situations. My hubby recently made the point that most friendships are superficial so he doesn’t know why it matters to me. He’s right because... it seems you have to act or look or be a certain way to be accepted as a friend. I will remember this when I meet people. I tend to look for people I would have something in common with but that’s not necessarily going to be people my own age and with my exact same lifestyle or all the same interests as me. Thank you for your thoughtful response.