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Originally Posted by TheOutsider90
About a year or so ago I had found a text on my husband's phone to a woman named Christy, saying hello sweetheart what are you up to. Of course we got in a fight about it but it subsided. It turns out she is a friend if his uncle's and he sometimes smoked with her. I told him I didn't want him to talk to her anymore as I was weirded out about the sweet heart deal. And because I had suspicions he was doing neither drugs, not just smokijg. He said ok. We went out to the bar today, she was there. She pulled me aside and said "I'm Christy and you don't like me" this woman was around 50. We are both 28. She told me that he was her best friend and that nothing sexual ever happened between them. I kept trying to get away because I was starting to have a panic attack. O never thought there was anything sexual. I thought it was drugs. And now I'm all anxious that he's still talking to her, that he's doing drugs . And what gives her the right to say she's his best friend? I'm literally still sitting at the bar trying to get myself together. She left thank goodness, but the thought of her is lingering.
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my first thought was a stranger approaches and you wait around the bar and come on psychccentral and post.... that to me is a bit strange heres why...
not alot of people know I come here to psych central. my wife, yes, a few family members yes but people i go to the bar with nope and I wouldnt get caught dead so to speak in texting while in a bar. too many ways a person can see what I am texting, what apps Im using what websites Im on, passwords... even in bar bathrooms are not very secure, you have folks looking under doors, placing viewing equipment in odd places, and some bars even have security cams in bathrooms, not angled for the can but anyone can reach up over bar bathroom doors with their celll phones and snap a pic and run....
if this was me I would not have stayed at the bar if i was so upset that I was having a panic attack. I would have called a taxi or driven home. or called a friend to pick me up to go home. (yup I have been there with strangers coming up to me in bars thats pretty normal behavior for bars anyway, and have had many a panic attacks when out on public. my first thought has never been stick around where Im triggered and post online. its get the heck out of there, deal with my trigger then at home if I want to go on the internet I do.)
my suggestion
before you go to a bar again have a plan set up since you know that you get panic attacks in them. go with a friend, know how to go to the bar tender and ask them to call you a taxi and while your at it tell the bar tender someone is bothering you, they get the bouncers/ security on it and you get to go home safely knowing this person cant bother you again.