Kiya, my T explained to me that she and I were trying to dismantle the wall. That can only be done by exploring it, brick-by-brick and finding the one chink where it's weakest. Yes you'll shut down, but somewhere you might not quite so well or so fast and you can start working from that side and your T will start working from that outside. But you have to let your T in, they can't do anything about the wall themselves, can only help from their side once you identify where to start.