It sounds likw you need to figure out who yiu are before ever getting involved wuth anyone again. I had a 33 year bad marriage & I have spent the last 11 years alone learning who I really am. Not who I am in relation to someone else. I finally feel like IF I were to finally meet the RIGHT person I could only now know enough about myself to be able to make a real relationship work & I also know now that I will not settle for LESS than the right person because I NOW know myself well enough to know what to look for in the RIGHT PERSON FOR ME. I have groqn to love my single life so much more than having to be tied to someone. The freedom is amazing & I will not even waste my time dating.