I suppose what I learned growing up was that I don't need anything or anyone. "Needs" sure as heck weren't met. The overall strategy of my system seems to be that the easiest way to live with that is not to have any.
It is much easier to live with no one helping loving or supporting you when you don't need anyone to do that.

It is not even a consideration that we could have a "need" that another person could do anything with. If we "need" something it wouldn't enter my head that there would be any person that could help with that. I don't want anything from anyone because that isn't even a thing that can happen.
If I have a need we take care of it ourselves or we exist without that.

Life is much simpler that way.