Totally agree.

Also, my approach would be the same as every other early interaction. When I’m trying to establish a relationship with someone I put my best foot forward (in as honest a way as possible). When I’ve established trust and a bond, I release the heavier stuff which shouldn’t crush the relationship once they know me.

What I would also do is ensure that that therapist you end up going with is SOLID. I know there are certain therapists that will only terminate if a person misses a certain number of appointments or is at risk of harming the therapist. I think it would be advantageous to go with a person least likely to drop you, considering what you’ve just been through. I think having someone philosophically aligned to sticking through ruptures is key. I’m not sure how to evaluate mental fitness but hopefully by meeting a few people and asking thoughtful questions you’d be able to get a decent feel.

Good luck!