Hey all, for those of you who know my history, I was wondering if you had any advice on what/how much to disclose in my first therapy appointment, specifically in regards to how it ended with my last therapist. I have been struggling because as you know, many of the providers I’ve met with have referred me out as soon as I disclose what happened. At times, it also has come up because they ask pointed/direct questions - they usually assume a specific incident caused the sudden termination and then want to know what specific incident that was. Not that this matters and I’m not sure if it’s a coincendence or not, but the individuals who have asked the more direct stuff and referred me on have all been psychologists. The individuals who seem to be less pokey are LMHCs or LMFTs. The thing is, I really would like to work with a psychologist. I would be fine working with a LMFT/LMHC too, but it has been really difficult finding anyone with that credential and have experience working with personality disorders.

I have a session booked with a psychologist for this week and will hopefully be meeting with another one as well, if she has availability. They both seem extremely qualified but I’m really scared and anxious about “scaring” them away too. I also want to add that it has been very difficult (near impossible) to find providers who are taking new clients, so while I do understand that “fit” is important, being referred on is very discouraging.