(((((((((Fuzzybear))))))))))))))))))

I hear your anguish. And I agree, it blows my mind when people behave so horribly. Going off on them won't help you manage that, in my opinion.

Are you familiar with assertiveness training? It focuses on "I" statements, not on "You" statements that make people defensive. It is tough to do in heated arguments and it takes focus and practice.

I wish I could help you somehow; at this distance, telling you about assertiveness is the best I can offer.