My Support Forums - View Single Post - stopping hypergraphia & overtalking from getting me in trouble

Blueberrybook · Oct 17, 2018, 03:54 AM

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Originally Posted by yellow_fleurs

Blueberrybook for the emails maybe you could work on writing them out and saving the draft or walking away for 5-10 minutes, coming back re-reading and editing? I type fast so can really ramble myself if not careful. You could even wait to put the email address of the recipient in or write it in Word then copy and paste when ready to send to slow you down.

With overtalking, maybe you can practice your listening skills and actively taking a moment to ask the other person a question? Sometimes I find when I overtalk I haven't caught my breath to let the other person get a word in edgewise. I just noticed myself doing this with my SO on the phone. Then was like, oops, why don't you tell me what's going on with you? With some of my best friends it doesn't matter too much because we all talk a mile a minute when together and they can keep up. With others I need to make sure I slow down, though. Not sure if this idea would help or anything, but it's just a thought.

That is a good Idea with the emails. Or maybe just put them into Google docs; MS Word is messing up on my computer, won't even open. Notebook, maybe.

You are right about the talking. I did actively work at it (hard!) one time, and it helped. I let that slip again. For all that I do let spew, people never realize I already am NOT saying 1/2, 3/4 of what I WANT to say. Same with writing.

I think part of the talking issue is I lack a friend nearby IRL. I don't make friends easily at all, an ongoing problem from elementary school onward.

I know there is a woman I went to high school with who works nearby and doesn't live very far away. I used to eat lunch with her & a few others in school even. She is nice. I am afraid to ask her to do anything, coffee, tea with me on FB Messenger. I know the worst she can do is say "no".

I'm scared of rejection.