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Originally Posted by Moreta
I learned that people really don't care about you when you're sad. They either give you the worst advice, yell at you, ignore you, judge you, or just totally invalidate your emotions. So yeah. I'll just keep stuff to myself from now on. People suck. Always have, always will. Nobody asks how you are even though you ask people how they are all the time because they don't care.
Tomorrow is my birthday. No it's not a happy one. I hate that people automatically wish you a happy birthday. What's so happy about it.
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I have noticed this too with the people in my life. Like H just thinks if I do things when I'm depressed, I'll work myself out of my depression. It may help him. Doesn't do a thing for me.
Regarding your birthday. I won't tell you to have a happy one if that's not what you want but do try and take extra care of yourself. Is there one thing or out of the routine in self-care that would make you feel good? A hot bath. Lighting a scented candle (not to remind you of birthday cake, but for the smell). A hot cup of tea, coffee, hot chocolate, cider? A TV show you have not yet watched or a book to read?
I can't remember if you work or not. If not, maybe getting out to someplace, break up the rhythm of your day. Go to the library, just browse, if you don't have money, not sure what the weather is like for you. Go for a walk if not cold or raining.
Just one small special thing for yourself.
My last birthday sucked. I had no money. I turned 40. Growing up, I had thought by then I'd be settled, have a good job and marriage and know the answers to everything. Ha!