Hello Limabean: Since this is your first post here on PC... welcome to PsychCentral. One additional forum that may be of interest would be the relationships forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

And then here are links to 10 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that discuss the dilemma of having a narcissistic parent, (mother in particular):

Narcissistic Mothers

The Narcissistic Mother's Game | Therapy Soup

Recovering from Your Narcissistic Mother: Seeing the 6 Effects | Knotted: The Mother-Daughter Relationship

Healing from the Narcissistic Mother | The Recovery Expert

https://psychcentral.com/blog/why-na...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/coping...sistic-parent/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...istic-parents/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recov...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor...ssistic-abuse/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.