I've heard people use so many words. Alters, headmates, parts, others....I mean it's a pretty long list. But what do you call an alter when you don't want people to know they are an alter? I mean we all frequently talk about or refer to each other without explicitly stating we have DID (it doesn't always go well). We use a lot of the same accounts online and we're stuck together, we influence each other or get in the way, so why wouldn't we talk about each other? But...we have no idea what to call each other. I'll be like oh blah blah blah something about so and so and then someone will be like who? So we'll state their name, but that doesn't always end the questions there. The person goes on to ask why and what our relationship is. And we don't want to tell them about DID and more often than not it's not even the person's business. I've thought of saying we were friends, or family....but that isn't really true and doesn't always explain the shared account.