Adieu, I do agree with what you said about showing you're too desperate will push people away. But the better looking a person is, the less that's going to get in the way. Confidence isn't something you simply decide you're going to have. I honestly believe it's born out of the way others react to you first. Those you refer to in the older movies are hardly ugly to me. As I said earlier, maybe you guys don't really understand what truly unattractive is. John Shaft (that's a cool board name, BTW), I'm curious as to what your experience is to this point at the age of 26. Have you ever dated, anything more, etc?