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Originally Posted by Lrad123
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I just wish we could have talked about this first before he suddenly stopped responding to my emails. That seems like a strange way for a T to respond. He has expressed to me many times that he supports my sending him emails, saying that he understands every client is different, and I have understood that his email responses will be brief so that we can discuss in person. It feels to me that he did a sudden 180 on this philosophy with no warning or discussion. This makes me feel like he’s unreliable. What else might he change on a whim?
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Doesn't seem like he changed this on a whim, but that your recurrent angry emails or the recent round of angry emails seemed to point towards this process not being effective in his judgment. Or maybe he just doesn't see the value in reading all this emoting when he's got his hands tied in responding because he cannot be therapeutic via email.
And he's not stopping you from sending emails and processing your thoughts that way. But I do think these are good questions to ask him, like what else might he change on a whim? It's not my thing that people remain in concrete in perpetuity but I can understand why things staying the same are important in feeling safe. I think you can have some productive conversations with him because it does seem like there's a lot to it and I'd encourage you to ask or say everything you think about his reliability or whatever. For me, I know when I'm really wound up about something, it's something I need to talk and talk and talk about.