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Originally Posted by Lrad123
FWIW, I did offer to pay for his time in reading and responding to my emails. I did not want to take advantage of him and did not want him to feel resentful. His responses were always brief, so likely not too time consuming. It is very clear that he reads my emails in great detail by what he remembers and brings up. He has also told me that he reads them more than one. He never answered me when I offered to pay him for his extra time.
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This sounds very much like my last T. I just chose not to think too much of it or try to guess what were his reasons/intentions for not responding or changing his engagement level. It can be due to a zillion different things. When I asked, he would typically offer excuses, like being busy or unexpected events. My first T was the one who often said I should bring those thoughts and feelings into session and he would not discuss them via email, but other times he did and reacted really strongly and emotionally. It was a mess. I often think that Ts use between sessions contact to manipulate clients and I refused to cooperate with that by focusing too much on it, however frustrating it was at times. I do not believe that when Ts handle these communications in unpredictable/changing ways, it is always (or even often) for the benefit of the client. I think they probably get overwhelmed or are lazy to maintain what they started.