I agree about sexuality being on this continuum. The fact that your husband is still active with you despite his fantasy/curiosity speaks to that, in my mind.

I knew of a distant family relatives years ago, I think by marriage where if I was to rethink it in 2018 terms, I'm thinking there was trans sexuality involved. They divorced but remained under the same roof and had a loving family, kids together and everything.

I don't believe that people just become [trigger/]suicidal [trigger] because a spouse stops being their spouse. Certainly, there could have been other factors involved.

I can imagine the fear of losing what you have together, marriage and dreams, is pretty frightening.