TBH IDK what to write in response to your reply No offense. I only know I believe him when he said his pdoc told him being hospitalized would jeopardize his physical rehab. We've been in a close relationship for 9 years. I never knew him to be insincere. Perhaps wrong but never insincere. Whether hospitaization would hurt his physical rehab I donot know I do know he told me his maternal grandfather was bipolar. I am glad your grandmother received help with her toe infection. Yes that hospital could be unique. I can't tell. The truth is everyone is an individual and so are most situations.