Thread: What makes you feel more groundedd?
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Old Feb 29, 2008, 07:27 PM
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I found it really hard to stay grounded until I learnt to want to stay grounded. Escape is safe. I had to experience that staying could be safe too at certain times (eg with my t) and I had to find a benefit in staying present to be able to fight going away. I usually try to move a little to stop me from going away. Shift my head a little or move my fingers or move my eyes to a different object.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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