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Originally Posted by mkortez212
I have a very good relation relationship with her family. They like me a lot. Infact, they treat me as their own son. They invite me in every festival, ceremony and even in their family gathering. They even share with me their problems, happiness and all. I really dont want to let them down because I like them very much too. They want us to get married ASAP. But I want my career to grow a little more and they are okay with it.
My gf also have a good relationship with her own family. Her dad passed away 2 years back. Since then, her mom has been looking after the house.
I wanna be a part of that family too, but I just want her to accept my family as well, and walk along with me through joy and tears of life.
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Are you an only son or only child? I only ask because as a mom of sons in the states we are socialized to believe whether it's entirely true or some broad generalization that sons grow up to leave their mom. So basically whoa is me for not having daughters?? It could just be wives tales who knows? I'll personally cross that bridge when I get there.
Maybe subconsciously the other sees threats? Threats = fear. I'm not sure why it's necessary to completely wash hands of your own family in your gf's eyes? I personally wouldn't dream of asking a man to not have anything more to do with his family. And I could personally learn to tolerate occassional etiquette as a compromise, hence not understanding fully nor comprehending such willfullness as your gf sounds like she is displaying.
Unless, I'm not understanding? You'd live seperately from either family, would you not?