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Originally Posted by nels13245
I've been riddled with traumatic events, my mum and dad were alcoholics and did drugs on a daily basis, I've witnessd unimaginable violence. I was removed at 8 years old to live with my auntie and uncle(I'm now 19)
I was around about 17 where my past really started to hit me and I was in a very bad state, I was very lost and confused. I kept on dwelling on it which was feeding me negative thoughts and producing negative emotions, I let years go on without seeking proper help, huge mistake because you can get yourself stuck in a negative emotional pattern, things like depression, being repentative, guilt, anger , anxiety, can become regular emotions.
This is how I overcame it.
First of all I accepted the things I've been through, and what has happened to me. And the you can begin the healing process.
Where you do EVERYTHING to help yourself pull through the other side as a mentally healthier person.
I started with knowledge, it is soooo powerful, you DO NOT WANT TO BE CONFUSED, confusion is a terrible thing when trying to overcome your problems.
So i read articles, watched videos, seeked advice. I gathered as much information as I could about my conditions and just about mental health in general, and things started to make sense to me, I began to get a sense of clarity that only grew stronger with the more I learnt.
So after I figured out my problems, got informed as much as I could, came to terms with what mental health problems I had and accepted them, I began to let it all go and begin my journey on being a more positive and happier person.
It all started to turn around
-felt more connection through relationships with other, more sociable ( I know longer felt misunderstood and that no one liked me)
- my perception on life became more meaningful
- massive improvement in my sleep
- worrying all the time almost become not existent
There was so much more benefits but just to give you and idea.
If you really work on it it'll happen, theres no doubting that, it takes time as well, it doesn't happen over night, always remind yourself that every day, most who are Trying to recover from mental health problems get discouraged because they don't see a change within the first couple of weeks when it takes months!
Now throw antidepressants in the mix whilst you are striving to better your mental health, you can literally change your whole life around Don't under estimate antidepressants also, they can work like magic. Definitely worth a shot, if they don't work after 1 to 2 months then just stop them...
This is a very basic story of how I went about my mental health and all of that, but hopefully you can take a few things from it.
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Hi Nels. Thank you for your thoughtful reply and for telling me what helped you.
I think, mainly, I'm confused about why my therapist brought up structural dissociation to me. I do not feel clear about it at all, to the point of feeling like it may not even be accurate for me. I need to get clarification from her on what she meant. I went into therapy on Friday hoping to talk about how to deal with my anxiety over certain social situations. It didn't go as planned, but that's ok. I did get some good things out of it.
One thing I want to point out, is that I am doing a lot better from where I was before. I take medication. I moved out of my parents house 1 year ago. Best decision of my life. I regularly attend a DBT therapy group. I do social stuff when I feel I'm able, though I still experience a lot of anxiety over it and I'm wanting to talk in therapy about it.
Thanks again. I do appreciate your response.
ps: I started seeing myself as a survivor, and it has really been helping. Instead of wallowing in my problems, and what didn't go right in therapy, etc. It really helped.