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Originally Posted by amandalouise
my first thought was a stranger approaches and you wait around the bar and come on psychccentral and post.... that to me is a bit strange heres why...
not alot of people know I come here to psych central. my wife, yes, a few family members yes but people i go to the bar with nope and I wouldnt get caught dead so to speak in texting while in a bar. too many ways a person can see what I am texting, what apps Im using what websites Im on, passwords... even in bar bathrooms are not very secure, you have folks looking under doors, placing viewing equipment in odd places, and some bars even have security cams in bathrooms, not angled for the can but anyone can reach up over bar bathroom doors with their celll phones and snap a pic and run....
if this was me I would not have stayed at the bar if i was so upset that I was having a panic attack. I would have called a taxi or driven home. or called a friend to pick me up to go home. (yup I have been there with strangers coming up to me in bars thats pretty normal behavior for bars anyway, and have had many a panic attacks when out on public. my first thought has never been stick around where Im triggered and post online. its get the heck out of there, deal with my trigger then at home if I want to go on the internet I do.)
my suggestion
before you go to a bar again have a plan set up since you know that you get panic attacks in them. go with a friend, know how to go to the bar tender and ask them to call you a taxi and while your at it tell the bar tender someone is bothering you, they get the bouncers/ security on it and you get to go home safely knowing this person cant bother you again.
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I was at the bar with my husband and my best friend, both of whom know that I am dealing with depression and anxiety. I did not leave the bar because 1) the stranger left, therefore I no longer felt threatened there and 2) because my best friend had also been dealing with some depression and this was her day to get out and do something. I wasn't about to drag get home over it. My trigger was NOT the bar. The woman was the trigger
Also, the bartender saw the whole thing. I am not stupid, I have been dealing with anxiety and depression for over 10 years and know my triggers and how to get out of them. My point of coming here was to get advice on how to deal with the anxiety of not knowing if my husband was doing drugs with this woman.
Thanks anyway though.