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The therapists are NOT off the hook, in my book. They don't know what they are doing, maybe -- neither did my family members.
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That's the major problem for me. It's not as much the fact that they don't know what they are doing, but that they deny their lack of knowledge.
If the profession, as a whole, was honest about how much they still don't know (which is like 95% of what they claim they can "treat"), if they said "we are sorry, but, scientifically speaking, we are still in our infancy, we are still trying to establish lots of facts about how the human mind operates let alone the methods of dealing with many psychological issues..so, yeah, we are still experimenting", I'd be fine with that. There is no shame in ignorance when a lot of factual information is really not available yet. But there is a shame in claiming "expertise" and knowledge where there is none.
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It's a horrible situation, repetitiously horrible. I'm so sorry for all of us. Myself included. Though being sorry is not enough, of course. Still not sure what next to do, though.
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I guess, a good place to start is to stop allowing anyone to invalidate our experiences. At this point, I am not willing to engage with anyone who is unable to show empathy and to hold the space for my pain even when they see my situation somewhat differently. I am fine with someone seeing it differently, but I am not willing to consider their perspective unless I can see that they HEAR me and FEEL my pain and have compassion for it. I don't give anyone the right to give me their input. Only those who can listen to me with their heart fully open earn that right. This, I believe, is the first step forward. No more "discussions" where I feel like I have to justify my feelings and to explain them "rationally". When someone doesn't get it, they are not going to get it no matter what I say and I am not willing to waste my time on them. That's the first step forward for me.