I understand completely Even H, who has at least admitted I have some mental health issues, definitely bipolar & panic disorder will tell me to do something useful when I'm depressed; it will help. Maybe it helps him but it does not help me. H won't stick with me on parenting issues because of all the trauma our daughter has gone through because of me. And sometimes, she needs to be told no, or that is not acceptable, and H just doesn't do it. It makes me feel like a lesser parent and a bad parent too.