Yes try to be a supportive person of course

But .....

I think that you have to put your self care first when your so involved and being emotional harmed , because you ARE being harmed. Crying for days over it ? No way.... boundaries are needed.

I have known a few people over the years even on here, I have had to take a huge step back and set boundaries.

End point is I have to protect myself or I’m going down to the depths of hell and I don’t need that.

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