I don't buy into all these notions about therapist altruism and caring. Seems they are mostly in it for themselves, and when a therapist goes too far with trying to help, it could be due to some overpowering need of their own.

Also, whether the therapist genuinely cared is a red herring. Seems OP is miserable because she knows the therapist cared MUCH LESS and suffers few or no consequences from the failed relationship, while OP is tortured to no end, which is thoroughly degrading.

For me a sign of strength was when I stopped scraping the bottom of the barrel looking for signs of therapist caring, and acknowledged that I'd been used... AND stopped taking personally, since it was not actually about me.