One thing about other people and whether they really care or not, we don't get to define that, they do. We don't get to say how they care or where or when or what it looks like because it's their caring, not ours. We might like or expect it to look a certain way but that's not the same as whether it exists or not.

I don't see any benefit in believing the opposite of what another person says, especially someone I believe is creditable, like my T. I find it much more interesting to find what their caring is like, how it manifests and how they see it than trying to fit their square selves into my self-defined little triangular hole I've made for them to fit themselves into