I keep seeing this trend again and again when fairness to the therapist, who traumatized the client, somehow has greater importance that fairness to the client who's been traumatized through the actions of the therapist.

I am perfectly comfortable with not being fair to the therapist in this situation and with judging her however I want to judge her and I don't have any need to know anything about her as a person and about her feelings for Sarah in order to judge her actions on their own merit. Actions speak for themselves and who she is as a person and what kind of feelings she had or didn't have for Sarah and what her intentions were is completely irrelevant to me. I separate the person from their actions. It is not the person I am judging but the actions. That's why who she is as a person and what she was feeling and thinking makes no difference to me. Her actions were harmful and this is all I need to know to judge what happened.

I am trying to respond to Sarah's topic of the thread as it was titled to the best of my ability. That's why I will not side track and get sucked into a debate on whether the therapist cared or didn't. I tell my opinion to Sarah and so does everyone else, as this is what the thread is about, I believe. I don't believe it's been intended for a debate. It was intended for OP to process her grief, and, in this type of threads, the most appropriate thing to do for anyone who posts is to accommodate OP's need for processing IMO.