Hello,

I have been following this forum for awhile and decided to make an account just to answer this question. My ex-T and I also had an abrupt termination. Ours wasn't even in person, it was through text. But, even though it made me sad, I still went on with my life and reached out to another therapist from the past and ask her if she would be willing to take me as her client again (and of course, she said yes). I never heard back from my ex-T and never had a closure session, so I reached out to her to ask for a closure session. She ignored my text, but eventually texted me back 2 weeks over and scheduled our last final session. The closure session wasn't something I expected and I knew my ex-T is someone who never changes her mind when she has something set. That was her boundaries in session and in her personal life. But, in our last session, we were talking and I told her the real reason on why I wanted and needed a closure session. It was to thank her for all that she did for me even though we had to end our therapy together abruptly. After telling her something about myself, I could tell and sense she was so sad. She was silent and her tone of voice sounded sad and then she asked if she could hug me. We hugged (nothing new, we used to hug all the time), but this time, our hug was long and loving. Before I left her office, she told me that I could always talk to her and that if I needed her, she will be there for me and I can just call her. I was shocked because I knew she wasn't someone who would change her mind about anything. I didn't respond and just walked away. Even though I was pissed we ended abruptly, I still wrote her a goodbye letter to let her know how much she has helped me. I didn't expect a response back because most T do not respond back to letters from ex-clients. A month later, she reached out to me to tell me that if I wanted to come back to her for therapy, she would be willing to take me as her client and she thanked me for the letter I wrote for her. I was surprised she even reached out. I did not expect that and I did not expect her to tell me she would take me as her client again. But, I rejected because I already have a therapist who I love working with. I responded back to my ex-T to tell her no i won't be coming back and she responded with "I am here for you when or if you need me okay?". Awesome.

I am here to tell you anything could happen. I didn't expect my ex-T to reach out to me, but she did. But then, I also gave her the space that she needed and she gave me the space that I needed. And because of that, everything happened so naturally when we did contact each other again. There was no hard feelings and everything between us is good. And believe me, I missed her a lot when we terminated and I still miss her till this day even though I rejected her offer.