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Originally Posted by Borderline69
I find this question to be very bizarre to say the least. I think back when I was in school, junior high, high school, I had plenty of male friends. I didn't Fthem or ever wanted to. Why is it so hard to fathom men and women not remotely attracted to one another. And to take it a step further, there are plenty of men I find v attractive that I'm just not In to. I dont dream or fantasize about them, and I know btw we interact they are not dreaming g about me either.
There is more than male vs female involved in wanting a deeper connection/ personal intimacy. Now I'm not a man however as a woman I NEVER think about sex when I'm around an attractive man. I've asked plenty of men this question and many men say the same about women, especially married men. If a married man deeply loves his wife, he doesn't care about other women sexually or in any way romantic.
Perhaps it is only men who could potentially have this problem bc if you ask a woman if men and women can be just friends you will probably get the are you kidding me look. Not all men , just men who have issues with cheating and devotion to one woman. Thankfully they are not a dime a dozen.
Silly question really, men may see it differently.
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I have noticed that when you're hanging out with other couples (married or not), it's def much easier to all be friends. Probably because they have "eyes" on them. I've had my gf's men come up to me and tell me I'm pretty and that we should "go over here" while they were just alone with me, especially if they're drunk.
And back in high school this wasn't an issue for me either - I hung out with a lot of guys that were just friends. But we were all just kids.
The older I get, I find it more difficult to have a 1:1 conversation or "catch ups" with a man or guy friend that are single without any sort of tension. Surely it's not impossible for a man and a woman to have a platonic relationship, but how many of those do we really have in an adult world?