Thanks, I value this. I think besides the reeling a person like my therapist should also look into her motives for why she did what she did. I think itīs more or less impossible to define the concept of caring in those situations and in the situation you mention in your post.
The case you describe, did the pain also come from that therapist having to end her contact with that woman?
Yes, the amount of remorse is very central to me, I could bear my situation in an easier way if I knew my T did really regret all this and that she feels bad about it.
In a way I think her supervisor made way for her to leave her responsibility behind and also gave her an excuse to put aside her own wrong-doing in this. I mean, being able to refer to her supervisorīs decision even if I think she felt sorry about all this when it just had happened.
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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
I know we are speculating and trying to mentalize, but after teaching for so long I draw on my own experience and those I watched ( boarding school). Whenever someone crosses a professional line, they are usually reeling if they have a good heart at all. In my town, a T saw a woman as a favor to her husband, a friend, on a Sunday. She made a very big mistake that had a bad outcome, even though her intentions were good and the favor of evaluating her informally with a dual relationship seemed small until judged in hindsight. Although I am not privy to her thoughts either, I can only imagine she will regret as long as she lives her small lapse in judgement that led to great pain. I am pretty sure your T is not proud of herself; we just have the question of how much remorse does she feel. Your T is in a double bind right now bc any further ending/ bonding she does with you exacerbates her mistake, and I am sure she has been warned to back off. This is a lose-lose situation, but not one set up by you. I am so so sorry.
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