My and T and I are very goal oriented. See problem x and we focus on that until it is processed then move on to the next one.

My T has very few people who just want to sit and talk for an hour ,,, he usually refers them to other T’s he feels his skill works best with proactive people.

Maybe you guys are just not a good fit ?? Sometimes it takes a few T’s to find a good fit

Write down some things that you want specific help with. Maybe she will realize you do need/want more help with specific problems.