It's been off & on searching for 20 years to find a T. So many of them, I'd just talk, and that would be it. I finally found a T less than 5 minutes away from my house. This latest one wasn't easy to find. Lately, the T's I've looked at have gotten picky. One didn't like that I was on Seroquel, told me to have my doctor adjust my meds and call her back. One was so hesitant to work with someone with an ED, it was like she thought I'd break or something, and her reaction put me off so much, I didn't go back to her. Another didn't want to see me when I told her how many therapists I've tried in the past and not connected to.

Anyway, the new T I have does CBT. Right now we are focusing on problems & stressors coming up soon for me as well as trying to find tools to cope with stress.

But I had tons of T's who just had me come in, listened sympathetically for 50 minutes, then let me leave, having accomplished nothing, and at some point you get talked out. I've had others give me extremely vague, broad scary objectives & goals or things that totally didn't always add up; like smile at everyone new you meet and you'll soon find a friend...2 +2 = 5, I guess with that one.

Here, the goals are smaller but more do-able. Like this coming week, I have a goal of going to my daughter's book fair the day it is open late; there is a point for it, and it is specific, not something that has me wondering how in the world do I DO this goal? Sometimes, it's more like homework, writing out things that stress me, my feelings, what I did about it, and then we will pick a topic and pick it apart, and then it will turn out a lot of the incident has to do with past traumas. She does seem to come with a plan of an area to work on if I do not have something specific to go over, such as teaching coping mechanisms. I haven't been seeing her long, maybe a month, month & a half, weekly though.

So I don't just go there and talk and get no feedback or a broad assignment I can't even begin to tackle.

I think that I also like that she is down-to-earth, approachable, not standoffish. I have had so many therapists put up such as professional wall, seeing them is like seeing a doctor, nothing casual about their office or clothing, and I have noticed that already makes it hard for me to connect. Sometimes, the therapy is tough, but it I know it's good for me and accomplishing something. If you do not like your therapist or dread going to the sessions because you don't feel it's helping, it's possible you need a break or maybe you are not working with the right T for you.