I feel your frustration. I have a sibling who is also bipolar, but it is much more obvious with him. He’s also an alcoholic and I believe has some major personality issues, so it is very BAM right there/obvious. My family puts up with anything he does. They excuse all of his behavior and every mean and hurtful thing he does, because “he’s ill and doesn’t know any better.” Meanwhile, I have a remarkable similar set of bipolar symptoms (without the addiction), but anything I do that is not “normal” is viewed as me being immature or selfish. Like, the two of us can respond in the same exact way to the same situation, but for him, it’s because he’s mentally ill and can’t help it, for me, I am choosing to respond in ways in order to hurt them. WTF? And he’s always been way smarter than me, so it’s not like there is some intellectual component that people are accommodating for. It’s all because I can pass for normal from 8am to 4pm if I stay on my meds.