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Originally Posted by scarlett35
I’ve had some time time to calm down and I feel better. I have been talking to my friend but just trying to spend more time doing positive things and spend less time on her really :/ I feel very guilty about it though. Sometimes I wish I was brave enough to be able to tell her how I feel but I just hate any sort of conflict and I don’t want to hurt her feelings.
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Try not to feel guilty for taking care of yourself and your own needs. You count, you matter, and your happiness matters.. you are your number one priority and that's not something to feel bad or guilty for. Her happiness is not your responsibility -- it's hers and hers alone. We are each responsible for our own happiness in life. She only makes you miserable, and downhearted. She is her own worst enemy! That's not your fault. So live your life, do what makes YOU happiest, and she will have to figure out things on her own, unfortunately. I understand not wanting conflict and/or hurting her feelings by being direct. She already knows she turns everyone away from her. Now it's up to her to change herself.. not your job.