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Originally Posted by whispershadow
I made friends with someone who expected me to be available 24/7 (this was years ago), I dropped him after he called me a nasty name and verbally attacked me *just* because I was unavailable for a few hours due to something else that was going on that was serious 
I tried to be there for him as much as I could but he wouldn't seek other help for himself, he expected me to drop everything and be there for him 24/7 if he needed someone and he wouldn;t even entertain the idea of other people trying to help him like if I was unavailable like I was that one time cause I had something really serious going on and could not drop everything and be there for him at that moment in time, but we have to do what we have to do to protect ourselfs and we cannot be expected to save others if they won't help themselfs 
I lost one other friend (online friend) as well but I won't go into that here  |
Thanks for sharing. I'm glad you were able to do what's best for you!
we have enough on our plate without having to deal with toxic people who make us feel worse. I'd love to be able to help her, but my friend also says she is beyond help from anyone, so I understand. It's so difficult, I don't want to lose my best friend.
I think I just need some major boundaries. If she is in a negative mood, I will back off. If she is talking about her obsession I will back off if I can't change the subject. If she's drinking I am also going to back off too.