Hi Scarlet --- I am proud of you for your realizations and for what you're saying here, but why keep someone in your life though-- on any level-- who is completely toxic to you in all ways? I worry that it is your guilt that keeps you tied to her, even from somewhat of a distance. Trust me, toxic people take from your life, they do not add to your life in any way, and this woman is taking from your life.... she is even discouraging you from having other friends. If it were me, I would ditch her completely. I just would hate to see you hanging onto a friendship out of guilt and a deep inner need to keep HER happy and appeased. We cannot make everyone happy, and you really don't owe her your friendship. It is up to you of course, however you want to handle it, I am just saying that if it were me, I would let her go completely and I wouldn't even want to talk to someone at all who was dragging me down as much as she is dragging you down.

I had a very toxic friend once who made me miserable every time I hung out with her, or even when talking to her on the phone most occasions. After seven years of it I finally got fed up and severed ties. In the end, we had a huge blowout fight over it, but you know what? I've been SO much happier without her in my life as my so-called "friend"! She was no friend. She made me miserable!