Bless your heart, dealing with abusive people is so stressful. One of the things I have learned is some abusers will switch to abuse other people if they no longer get the response they are shooting for.

But, a lot of abusers just up their abuse if they don't get the response they need. If they get off balance, they elevate their rage to regain their hateful balance and to send you crashing to the ground in the process. Not literally, I mean.

Before my self-esteem was stronger, I would have several narcissists as friends because they preyed on my desperation to have friends. Plus, that personality was familiar to me, growing up with a narcissist mother.

Learning to be assertive helped me and I encourage you to read up on it because it can help reduce your stress as well as managing some people like that.

Here one place you can start with: Being assertive: Reduce stress, communicate better - Mayo Clinic

Honey, I wish you the best in this! It is tricky but it can help you. Also, try to keep in mind that people who are abusive are the problem. You will need to learn new strategies to manage them.