My daughter is also bipolar she went off meds for her first baby and had to be hospitalized when her son was 3 weeks old. Though her second one she was on Latuda and in therapy and was stable the whole time and her daughter is in great health, smart as a whip. I wasn't diagnosed until my daughter was three so meds were not an issue for me. Being in therapy is a definite plus and I think the IOP has a lot of merit especially as you also have borderline. Best of luck to you.