Kalamity Jane,

I think it is because being DID you internalize everything you hear or think you hear because I don't know about you but I had to get good at reading body language. At my house you always had to gauge mom's body language in order to know what to say so you did not go flying across the room. And sometimes I think now as an adult it makes us too sensitive for our own good. We do the that everyone we meet will be like the others that hurt us so we put up a shield and try to deflect everything or filter everything but it distorts our perception. Meaning what we see and hear comes across slighted skewed. Like if we don't hear from someone right away, we jump to the conclusion, they don't like us, or we did something, versus oh they are busy or out to town or working late. It is always we did something wrong because that is what happened to us when we were young. We never think that the other person had something going on.

So hopeful with our T's help we can help to think about what the other people have going on that could be going on first before we blame our actions or lack of actions.

I understand where you are coming from, I do this too and I am trying to learn with my t's help to unlearn it but it is soooooo hard.

fragmented