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Old Oct 27, 2018, 10:13 PM
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Originally Posted by mogwai View Post
That's still abuse. It's always about gaining a sense of power and control, whether they're consciously aware of it or not.

Doesn't really make sense to abuse someone out of anxiousness, so I'm guessing that's simply a lie to avoid responsibility for being an abuser.
No I agree abuse is abuse. This abuser is in my family. He is my cousin. He owned what he did but he said it was a urge he fought an anxious urge. Not wanting to do it (anxious) but felt compelled despite his anxiousness. He said he felt that way as a child and it never went away. He went to jail and his kids were taken away but he is out now making more kids. Anyway, he doesn't have a history of trauma so I dont understand where this anxious urge from childhood comes from.