Dear T, Sometimes it is just too freaking hard to see things as they are, the wool of denial is thick and comforting. I am reminded of how easy it is to dismiss ideas and people when they are extreme, I remember how good it used to feel to disregard nuance and complexity and take note of how people can see things differently without one person having to be right. I so want the boy to move beyond this adolescent stage, and in probably the most important ways he has. But trying to be accepting of this place of rigidity and open to hearing about the detailed nuances of that is a big challenge. I want to just snap that he's being ridiculous and has no idea about what he's talking about, no facts or even life experience to back it up, and how self-serving his rigid beliefs are. But that's a total Mom fail, but boy does it take a bulldozer load of willpower to stay the intentional course and not be reactive.