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Originally Posted by Soybeans
This is new to me, I made sure the T I chose was patient, kind, knowledgeable, etc., and I really needed the kindness and the empathy. But now that I'm getting really attached, and transference is happening all over the place, I want my T to hurt me now... Is this normal? Sometimes I wish my T would yell at me or hit me or lose his patience and snap that I'm being a baby or something, because that feels so much more familiar than having to try to interpret his kindness session after session. Do I need to talk about this with him?
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It's probably worth talking about, as it likely stems from the ways you and your parents or you and other family members related as a child, which isn't healthy.
I'm in a similar boat in that I'm much more comfortable and responsive to negative comments, criticism, emotional and verbal abuse, etc., than nice things.
And when my therapist or psychiatrist offers a compliment or praise, my reaction is like someone spitting in my eye — like I don't know how to handle it.
Like last week as we were leaving, my psychiatrist called me a "mensch." I'd heard it before, but didn't know exactly what it meant and couldn't respond.