I think it just takes a lot of time to grieve, like the loss of anyone we love. I don't think you can rush it. Your feelings are okay, whatever they are. I used to discuss my first T with the next one. It helped. She still has a place in my heart but I don't think about her much. We had a poor ending though I know she tried her best with me. Your current T sounds like she will listen to you talk about exT. Correct?