What method of stimulation are you using? You said she was tapping? When we do it, T asks me to bring up a part of the memory that has the most emotional charge, then we talk about what’s happening inside my body, then she says to notice that feeling and starts the tappers I hold in each hand. It does take some letting go, I’m only just starting to get it after a few months but basically you just think right into the worst most charged part of a trauma memory, then your T will guide you through the process as it comes up and they stop the tappers.