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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I used to feel the same. I just started telling my T straight up how I felt. That I wanted her attention even if it was bad. It helped me learn to ask for things that I need when I need them. Mostly, for me, I need reassurance. Telling her that clearly, allows her to be able to meet those needs without me acting out. It's one of the reasons I've been SH free for over 3 years.
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That’s awesome! Congrats on being self harm free for so long! That’s good advice, too. I actually had started doing that with my last T before she left, once I got comfortable with her, it was easier. This T I’ve been seeing for about 3.5 months now and I’m still not totally at the point where I’m comfortable with her. I create a bit of a distance between us to protect myself. I feel awkward telling her that, but I write journals and she reads them, so maybe a good place to start is to write it in my journal and even outright say that I feel awkward and uncomfortable telling her that. With my previous T, I managed to only self harm twice in the entire year she was seeing me (as opposed to almost daily before that). With this new T, things have been different...frequent relapses...I feel so bad about myself. I’m trying to figure out why such a sudden change with the change in Ts.