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Originally Posted by Glowworm80
My T is usually very empathetic and understanding of my issues. There have been a few times over the past few months where I've told them a story and they seem to have identified more with the other person in the story and why they said or did what they did as opposed to how I felt or reacted to the situation. At times I've felt like they were almost acting in defence of the other person even. They weren't even stories where I was putting all the blame of the situation on the other perons but more saying we were clearly both to blame etc but they still seemed to defend the other person reaction rather than address my response to the situation. Has this happened others?
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I totally get this one. My current (or is it old; I don't know cause she left town?) T did this, much to my distress.
She completely defended someone else's creepy behavior rather than being in my corner. When I confronted her about it, she simply said that she was a compassionate being whose job it was to be a shining example, blah blah blah.
I don't need a T to leap to my defense at every juncture. I need one who can help me pull apart the situation in which I find myself...and what actions I can take around it. I sure don't need one who can assist in my self blame. I can get that at home.