I’ve nothing against someone nicely pointing out when I am in the wrong. It’s not usually even in that respect. It’s often I’m telling a story whereby both me and the other person are in the wrong at various points in the story and I will go as so far as to say that. For example in one story the other person was clearly in the wrong first and my T defended their actions. I had to then almost argue as to why their actions hurt me. I just found it strange . The other persons reactions were clearly wrong and caused me lots of hurt and anger and then I reacted to that albeit not in the best way but I did. Shouldn’t the T be focusing on my reaction and response and dealing with that and improving that and not the reasons for the other persons actions?
Is it just a case of a therapist overly identifying with the other person or what is it?