Dear PaintedTurtle,
I am sorry to hear you are struggling. Your story sounds romantic. I am not sure what to say about your family history or, involving interactions with your husband, how emotional challenges paints a picture of a hurdle at every mogul. I will say this, if what he does or says hurts you in any way, do not ignore what is happening. Find someone you are comfortable with to explore your relationship. But, from how you portray your story here, your relationship sounds romantic and your husband made a decision to not find other recreational activities because he finds that enjoyment spending time with you. Remember, he is your husband and it may be difficult for him to play more than one role.