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Originally Posted by mkortez212
We have been dating for more than 4 years now. From the past few months, my girlfriend doesn't want to be involved in anything related to my family. She says that she cannot go along with my family. Once, when she came to my house, my mom did not interact with her properly. From that moment onwards, my gf does not want to get along at all. I am a kind of a person who thinks family is everything, but if she cannot walk by my side along with my principle, is this relation even worth? I love her very much and want to spend my whole life with her. Is there anything I can do to convince her?
Desperately in need of some advice. 
Thanks. |
Well without the greater detail and context of what her problems with your family are I can't comment on the correctness of her viewpoint. You indicated your mother had not
interracted with your girlfriend properly and that is a big deal. Where there is smoke there is fire so I do have my suspisions.
What I can do though is tell you from personal experience that I think not accepting a partner's family can be the right thing to do. Sometimes we have to take a stand for what is right and honourable. Sometimes it is the correct thing to distance one's self no matter the family bonds. Family does not conquer and mean everything. I think this a fallacy.
My boyfriend's family are very awful people. Racists, bullies, homophobic, religiously intolerant, white nationalists. I stood up once at a family function to a their merciless teasing of an autistic family member. I spoke my mind and that was the last I had anything to do with them. It I realise has put my boyfriend in a difficult situation but in the end he chose to bide with me and rarely communicates with them now. Which is just as well as I am persona non grata.