I've given her time to respond. It's been about two months now since I contacted her. The last contact attempt was flowers sent to her and her mother with letters apologizing for my actions, so I haven't been swarming her so much that she hasn't had time to formulate a reply. After the flowers and letters I figured I've said all I could and it was up to her whether to accept without any more input on my part.

I think option two is most likely. She'll be defensive about trusting me again, but I think to go so far as to propose to her and spend several thousand dollars on a ring will prove my seriousness about being with her. So I think she'll at least be willing to try again with the relationship aspect and will take several months to "evaluate my performance," if you will. Then after that trial period she'll have had enough time to make her decision regarding marriage.